It was 2002 when my husband and I first made the decision to adopt. We knew almost immediately that we would one day bring a child into our home through adoption. However, the questions of how and where and when remained until we sat in a tiny office on Niagara Falls Blvd and met with a case worker from a relatively new local adoption agency, called Adoption STAR. We knew instantly that this agency was different from the others we had researched. We felt strongly about their practices and philosophy and immediately took a huge leap of faith and registered.

Adoption grew my family.

Since that time, we have welcomed three of the most charming and beautiful children into our home and their stories are just as unique as their personalities. Besides the obvious, of being a busy mom to three active children, I see all the subtle ways that adoption has touched our every day lives.

Adoption grew my faith.

Adoption is an unpredictable journey fraught with risks. As hopeful parents, we put our trust, and our future, in the hands of an organization and in individuals. Sometimes we put our trust in the universe, that through divine orchestration, the child destined for us will somehow find us. Others, like myself, also hold onto our faith. That deep belief that there is a plan for our lives. There were many times when we couldn’t see far enough around the corner to know what the future would hold. But we always had hope and trust- in our faith, in the process and in Adoption STAR.

Adoption grew my circle of friends.

All I have to do is pick up my phone and scroll through messages to see that adoption has had the single largest impact on my circle of friends. Over time, we gravitate towards like-minded individuals. Those in similar circumstances, or who can relate by shared experiences. This is so evident in my circle of friends. These men and women “just get it”.

Adoption grew my perspective.

In order to fully appreciate the act of adoption, we must first look at what predicated it. My children lost the families to which they were born into. That loss is real and it’s big. Focusing only on the joy to which they bring me, is only half of the story. Adoption has caused me look and feel beyond myself.

Adoption grew my world view.

Being a parent to children outside my race has forced me to face issues I probably would not have otherwise considered. To more closely examine my beliefs and my biases. It continually reminds me to step outside of my box and consider other ways of life.

When I think back on life before adoption, I see a different life and a different person. Adoption not only touched my life, but changed and shaped every aspect of it. I have grown to the person that I am today because of adoption.

My husband Jason and I had been trying to have a baby. A miscarriage, fertility treatments and then news that our odds were so horribly low that we would ever have a successful pregnancy. After grieving we made the choice to adopt. We had talked about adoption especially since Jason’s family was touched by it from a young age. I will never forget that night. My tears dried and there was hope. Hope that we would have the family that we had dreamed of. We attended Adoption STAR’s orientation. The feeling we got was one of warmth and love. We fell in love with the agency and started attending the meetings with enthusiasm. After we were home study approved we received profile calls that didn’t work out. It was tough to get the news. Then THE call came. I was driving back to work on my lunch and had to pull into a parking lot. A birth mother already saw our book and wanted to meet us! We were beyond thrilled! We set up a meeting and we all clicked. It was like magic. She told us she was having a boy. She told us her hobbies and cravings and her plans for the future. We were officially matched shortly after. We exchanged numbers and she kept us updated on how she was feeling and her dr appointments. She was wonderful! We couldn’t believe how lucky we were to have this opportunity to share in her experience. After her last dr appointment she told us she would be going in to have the baby and that we could come and be with her at the hospital. What a gift. We were that with her family to support her. It was a long labor and she was amazing. Her strength was beyond measure. When the baby was born we heard the lullaby playing in the hallway. Jason and I were able to see her and the baby when she was ready. She handed him to me. Tears streamed down my face. He was the most beautiful baby boy! She let us have hospital bracelets so we could have full access to him. I cried as the nurse put it on my wrist. We were the ones to give him his first feeding and we watched as the nurse gave him his first bath. He was so sweet and perfect as the nurse took our first family picture. He grasped our fingers and stole our hearts! We didn’t have a room so we were shown to the family area on that floor. We held him for hours just marveling at this little miracle that was in our arms. We visited with his birth mom at the hospital and she told us she was happy for us. She told us that we deserved the perfect baby. She is such an amazing woman. We think about her every day. We talk about her often. She came to our home to visit with us and little Charlie. She told us she knew from seeing us in our profile book that we were the ones. It was meant to be. Adoption STAR brought us together. We will forever be grateful for their guidance in helping us make the most important & wonderful decision of our lives!