“Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother” From an Adoptive Mother’s Perspective

This review of “Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother” is from Dana Smith

I read the book “Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother” and I highly recommend it. It was very well written, and almost everything she wrote about I thought it, which is why I really liked the book. It was like someone out there finally got what we have to go through to adopt and just wrote about it with a sense of humor.

The author, Jana Wolff, talks about the hoops we have to jump through as adoptive parents, all the info we have to get, all the info birth parents want to know about us, going through the home study -should the house be super clean? Will they think I am a clean freak if it is too clean and possibly have OCD? But what if it is not clean enough??? Very funny!

My favorite part of the book was when Wolff wondered what kind of picture to send the birth mom? Who would think of something like that, but it is soooo true! Should he be happy and smiley, or would that make the birth mom sadder? Should it be one where he is crying, but would the birth mom think he is not happy? That was hysterical, and after we brought home our son, I realized exactly what she meant! Our son was smiling in every picture that we took, so we had no choice as to the type of picture to send.

We do not have a biracial child, so that part was very interesting, and all the emotions she had with that and the comments that people gave her and what she had to deal with.

Definitley 5 out of 5 stars!

What were your thoughts after reading “Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother?” Were you able to relate to Wolff’s thoughts?